This is NOT ok – LMLD drama

So last weekend a blog post was written by a Catholic blogger with a pretty big following posted something that has created waves.

The topic that has people up in arms?  Being a Catholic mom and working or not working.

It’s her blog, I know I’m likely not her target audience, and she’s entitled to write out her thoughts buuuuut getting, excuse the term, butthurt because people disagree with you on something you put out publicly and then playing the victim because people are big meanies is not ok. It’s not uncharitable to voice disagreement.  It simply isn’t.

I commented several times myself on the a fore mentioned blog post, as well as on JoAnna’s response post to this. Very few of my comments were actually approved, because unlike myself or JoAnna, it appears Auntie Leila vets everything. (Well, actualluy — I delete comments that link to porn or are spam – yes the porn thing has happened.  It’s not cool!) Instead of allowing dialog, the vast majority of the approved comments belittled Catholic working moms, their husbands, their situations, and worst yet accused saints of harming their child who became a DOCTOR OF THE CHURCH.

Aside from commenting on the LMLD postseveral times I also tweeted Leila:

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Hello 2018

It’s 2018!  To review 2017

  1. What did you do in 2017 that you’d never done before? Moved into a house!! In the 8 years we’ve been married we’ve only been in apartments.  I LOVE the house!!
  2. Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year? Some, but not all. Totally failed on finishing my 2017 book list, but JP ans I are making them tonight over some wine and a board game.
  3. Did anyone close to you give birth? Yes!! Babies!!! I’m finally an aunt to a sweet little niece and adorable little nephew.  I can’t wait until I can meet them both in person.
  4. Did anyone close to you die? After JP returned from his grandfather’s funeral at the beginning of the year my maternal grandmother passed away shortly after.
  5. What countries did you visit? None. We didn’t travel a whole lot this year.
  6. What would you like to have in 2018 that you lacked in 2017? A bigger nest egg and no debt.
  7. What date from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory and why? September 6th – hello Henry! And then October 6th, his baptism.
  8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? Henry 🙂 And JP officially got ABD status with the university.  Yes, I’m bragging on that.  His PhD is a freaking big deal 😀
  9. What was your biggest failure? Maintaining work/life balance.
  10. Did you suffer illness or injury? February and March were rough with a marathon of colds – compounded by the fact that you can’t take the good drugs when you’re gestating someone new. Does Henry’s c-section count here?  I mean, I feel like I agreed to that, so I don’t know if I’d count it as suffering, but it was a rather large medical event.
  11. What was the best thing you bought? Movers.  Seriously, we would not have been able to do it without hiring someone with my heavily pregnant self.
  12. What did you get really, really, really excited about? Henry’s birth and his baptism.  Our first Christmas in a house.
  13. What song will always remind you of 2017? Oh hard one… um, I really have no idea this year.  Maybe The Good Old Days by P!nk?
  14. Compared to this time last year, are you: Thinner or fatter? Slightly thinner. Thank you breastfeeding perk.  As I type this out I’m eating Christmas cookies…
  15. Richer or poorer? Poorer.  I took 10 weeks of maternity leave which was largely unpaid.  *insert comment about US leave laws*
  16. What do you wish you’d done more of? Making our marriage a priority.
  17. What do you wish you’d done less of? Complaining.
  18. Did you fall in love in 2017? Yes!  With our newest little mister. I now have three loves of my life.
  19. What was your favorite TV? So, I was totally late to the party on this one, but Downton Abbey!  So so SO good!  I cried when I finished the series.
  20. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? None that I can think of.  More annoyed with people sure, but I can’t think of anyone new.
  21. What was the best book you read? Of the books on my list from last year I’m going to say the most thought provoking was Hillbilly Elegy.
  22. What was your greatest musical discovery? Lame as it is, I can’t think of anyone… I didn’t really try to branch out that much this year.
  23. What did you want and get? A baby!
  24. What did you want and not get? A vbac.  Though, Henry came into the world how he needed to, and my OB was amazing right to the end.  And I’m pretty sure he was more disappointed than me.
  25. What did you not want and get? My maternal grandmother dying.  I still miss her (and my paternal grandmother too) a lot.  They both would have loved Henry.
  26. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I turned 31, we went out to dinner for middle eastern food and I got cheesecake.
  27. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? While it was a slow year that started off rocky with grandparent deaths and funerals, I think overall it was a decent year for us.
  28. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2017?
  29. What kept you sane? My number 1 mister.  And some online Catholic groups.  Oh, and my PCP.  She’s been awesome with helping me through the postpartum gumbo.
  30. Which celebrity/public figure did you follow the most? Uh… probably the Pope?
  31. What political issue stirred you the most? I’m just going to sum it up with people not keeping their hands to themselves.  Asshats.
  32. Who did you miss? Family as always.  The latter part of this year I’ve really missed Germany too.  So basically the same answer as last year.
  33. Who was the best new person you met? I’m going to say Kaitlyn who I met in 2016 at a BiS brunch I hosted, but we reconnected thanks to a Catholic mom facebook group.  She blogs over at Tea With Tolkien and is awesome.  Aside from Kaitlyn, I’ve made lots of great connections with some awesome Catholic women online and I hope to meet some of them someday.
  34. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2017:
    Breathe and focus.
  35. Quote a song lyric or something that sums up your year: This meme:

What’s in a name?

For God allows parents to choose the name by which he himself will call their child for all eternity”

Pope Francis, Amoris Laetitia (166)

One of the first things people always ask when you announce you’re pregnant, well after they ask the due date and gender, is what you’re going to name your baby.  Some people know what the name will be from the moment a pregnancy test confirms that there is a little occupant in mommy’s womb, others have no clue until baby makes his or her appearance and mom and dad meet the baby.  JP and I fall into the latter camp.

Also, when  you have a baby lots of people seem to have input one way or the other.  My due date groups with both boys were full of people who had HUGE anxiety over IF their name was right, or over some relative who *hated* the name.  I know we received input from lots of people when we were thinking about names for both boys.- input we’d normally thank people for and then go on with our ideas, and continue to pray about it.

With both boys we walked into the hospital with two or three names, likely knowing their middle names, and it took laying our eyes on and holding both of our sons to know what they’d be called.

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It’s a Geek Life 2017 Last Minute Gift Guide!

Disclaimer: This is a collaboration post with RawSpiceBar, who longtime readers will know is a company we’ve worked with for a couple years now. I was super excited that despite a light blogging year that RSB reached out to collaborate again this year. Keep your eyes peeled for some cooking posts in the net couple months too!

Hello mid-December.

Guess what internet.  Guess WHAT!

Christmas is a week, read it A W-E-E-K, meaning 7 days away!

Eeeep. Cue panic!!

Hopefully *most* of us have finished our Christmas shopping (I did wrap up the gifts for the boys a couple weeks ago), BUT if you haven’t there is still time to do some non-Amazoned gifts!  And even better, there are LOTS of options for the “millenial” itch of providing an experience or something bigger than a  mere material gift or the SUPER awesome gifts that keep coming after Christmas is over.  Here are some of my favorite ideas:

One // Book Subscription Boxes

A gift that we always love for the boys is books.  And their room reflects this – well, and that we live in the same town as a Half Price Books Outlet (LOTS of great board books for a dollar!).  Bernhard is also to the age where he’d becoming more and more aware that the mail man brings mail.  Getting books monthly would be awesome to gift to your favorite little person.

Two// Heifer International or other Chairitable Orgs.

Heifer International is a chairty that has been on my radar since high school. As the name suggests, you can donate money towards a cow or other livestock animal, as well as multiple other items like water pumps, sending children to school, supporting farmers, and projects.  I know when I was younger my parents donated in the name relatives for things like chickens, seeds, etc.  My aunts and uncles thought it was greate!

Three// State Park Pass

Since Bernhard was litlte we’ve used part of any Christmas money we’ve received to invest in an Indiana State Parks pass.  Gifting this to your favorite outdoorsy people will make you their favorite person 😉

Four// Food Delivery

Bloomington has a few companies that will let you use their website to order from any number of restruants.  One of JP’s professors generously gifted us a gift certificate to one of these services after Henry was born.  Food is awesome.  Gift dinner to someone!

Five // RawSpiceBar

If your giftee is more of a kitchen chemist, I LOVE RawSpiceBar!  Fresh spice delivered to your giftee’s door.  And RSB has revamped their subscription service!  Now spices are received on a quarterly basis (choose 6 or 12 months), and (this is seriously my favorite thing) the packets are BIGGER!  Which means you’re not limited to only using the mixes for one meal.  Additionally, if your giftee falls hardcore in love with one of the blends that they receive you can order MORE OF THAT SPICE!!! I still dream about some of the Octoberfest kit spices from a year or two ago…

A long awaited introduction

Tomorrow this little one turns THREE MONTHS OLD!! (And gets to celebrate his first St. Nick’s day)

Internet – officially meet our newest: Henry Alexander!

We welcomed this little one air-side on September 6th at 4:40pm via repeat c-section. We were aiming for a vbac, but due to various factors it was not the route little mister needed to come out.

We are so happy he’s here and the last three months with him in our little family have been awesome. He is the happiest baby!! And Bernhard has been awesome at filling his role as big brother. I love seeing these two interact now, and am looking forward to seeing them grow up together.

I’m Still Here

Hi internet — remember me?

I am still alive and kicking — I’ve just been soaking up my time with that little guy on my back (proper blog intro coming!), and adjusting to being a mom of two.

Yes. this yet another one of my I’m back posts. 😂 So hi there I missed writing and I’m back (again).



(Not so) Wordless Wednesday: Hump Day Bump Shot!

32w3d along with Le Bump the #labordaybaby

Hello there internet! Yeah… it’s been a month since I last posted… oops. As you can see, the pregnancy with baby E 2.0 is still going.  We’re hoping to meet Le Bump air side in about 8 weeks, give or take a bit.  I’m going to try for a VBAC with this little one, so my OB has me on weight gain restrictions which has been a “bundle” of fun with my pregnancy cravings kicking up a bit — I *really* just want a big greasy cheeseburger from Five Guys with a side of cajun fries, but can’t have it right now.  I failed the 1-hour glucose tolerance test and had to go in for the three-hour which was NOT fun.  WHY do they put pregnant women through that?!  It was awful.  But I did end up passing and NO GD here.  But still on a GD-like diet.  Meh.

We’re gearing up to move to the new rental in about a month, which I’m still SUPER excited about — we’re going to be in a HOUSE for the first time in our marriage.  Almost like complete grown ups.

So chances are life will continue to be busy.  I’m planning on *trying* to do another Snapshot September series this year, but I may need to restrict it to every other day as Le Bump is due on Sept 3/4.  We shall just have to see.

Anywho, I just wanted to drop in a quick note to say that I’m not dead.  Life is just keeping things busy.  I’ll “see” you when I post next — or you can always catch me over on twitter or instagram being a goofball 😉